Though sometimes pitted against one another and at times contradictory, the ideas of Michel Foucault and Judith Butler on the nature and expression of our sexuality and our gender identities help us to gain a deeper and more rounded picture of the impact and import of the burgeoning phenomenon of internet dating websites. This paper looks at the use and prevalence of video-sharing technologies on sexual social networking websites, in the context of notions of sexual identity and an information systems approach to the phenomenon of internet dating.